Comments on: How My Life Got All Shitty http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/2009/09/23/how-my-life-got-all-shitty/ Written and photographed by Jessica Monte Fri, 30 Jul 2010 01:49:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Mandy http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/2009/09/23/how-my-life-got-all-shitty/comment-page-2/#comment-3347 Mandy Tue, 24 Nov 2009 05:43:37 +0000 http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/?p=2984#comment-3347 Hi, you found my website a year or so ago because my little girl is also name Annabel. She just made 2 and we still nurse at least once a day. I also have a new little boy,name Harry, who turns 5 months this week. I did not have ppd, but when I was on extended bedrest for Annabel I had panic attacks and was depressed (other countries recognize it as ante-natal depression I believe). I had to be on Zoloft and slowly weaned off of it around the time Annabel turned 6 months. It was hard. I did not know myself at times. I could not sleep for months and always needed the tv on. The panic attack were so so terrible. Thanks to my therapist and my husband and Zoloft while I was on it I made it through. I hope you are doing okay. Having two little ones is so very hard (I sometimes don't know how I make it through the day and I was lucky enough to not have any psychiatric issues with this pregnancy and birth). You will make it through. The day to day of just being a parent gets easier. Make it to three weeks then three months. I am looking forward to six months because I remember that as being the next step. Good Luck and thanks for sharing. Hi, you found my website a year or so ago because my little girl is also name Annabel. She just made 2 and we still nurse at least once a day. I also have a new little boy,name Harry, who turns 5 months this week. I did not have ppd, but when I was on extended bedrest for Annabel I had panic attacks and was depressed (other countries recognize it as ante-natal depression I believe). I had to be on Zoloft and slowly weaned off of it around the time Annabel turned 6 months. It was hard. I did not know myself at times. I could not sleep for months and always needed the tv on. The panic attack were so so terrible. Thanks to my therapist and my husband and Zoloft while I was on it I made it through. I hope you are doing okay. Having two little ones is so very hard (I sometimes don’t know how I make it through the day and I was lucky enough to not have any psychiatric issues with this pregnancy and birth). You will make it through. The day to day of just being a parent gets easier. Make it to three weeks then three months. I am looking forward to six months because I remember that as being the next step. Good Luck and thanks for sharing.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/2009/09/23/how-my-life-got-all-shitty/comment-page-1/#comment-3206 Anonymous Sun, 11 Oct 2009 05:25:43 +0000 http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/?p=2984#comment-3206 I'm a therapist...but I'm also a mom who has been depressed before. My depression was somewhat related. After I had my daughter I couldn't produce enough milk. I tried every herb, tea, and even prescribed medicine to be able to breast feed. I did this almost 4 months. For 4 months I would try to breastfeed, pump, and since there wasn't enough bottle feed as well. The cycle lasted so long that when I was done doing all three-it was almost time to start again. I'd do this all day for not enough enough milk to fill one little bottle. When I let go of being able to breastfeed my life was so much better. I could finally sleep...Ask yourself if there is anything you can let go to make your life simpler. Take one night a week (AT LEAST) and disappear for at least 5 hours doing something like getting a massage. I’m a therapist…but I’m also a mom who has been depressed before. My depression was somewhat related. After I had my daughter I couldn’t produce enough milk. I tried every herb, tea, and even prescribed medicine to be able to breast feed. I did this almost 4 months. For 4 months I would try to breastfeed, pump, and since there wasn’t enough bottle feed as well. The cycle lasted so long that when I was done doing all three-it was almost time to start again. I’d do this all day for not enough enough milk to fill one little bottle. When I let go of being able to breastfeed my life was so much better. I could finally sleep…Ask yourself if there is anything you can let go to make your life simpler. Take one night a week (AT LEAST) and disappear for at least 5 hours doing something like getting a massage.

]]> By: Kristin http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/2009/09/23/how-my-life-got-all-shitty/comment-page-1/#comment-3203 Kristin Sat, 10 Oct 2009 19:37:02 +0000 http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/?p=2984#comment-3203 This sounds hauntingly familiar to what I went through after the birth of my son (now 28 mos.). I ended up begging my husband to take me to the ER. The Zoloft took awhile to kick in but, I do believe it was literally a life saver. Athough, we would like to have another child, I am apprehensive because I am so scared to go through this again. My son was colicky as well, and was never a good sleeper...still isn't. Anyway, I just wanted to let you know, I feel your pain and can definitely empathize. Hang in there, it doesn't seem like it now, but it does get better! Hopefully, it already has! This sounds hauntingly familiar to what I went through after the birth of my son (now 28 mos.). I ended up begging my husband to take me to the ER. The Zoloft took awhile to kick in but, I do believe it was literally a life saver. Athough, we would like to have another child, I am apprehensive because I am so scared to go through this again. My son was colicky as well, and was never a good sleeper…still isn’t. Anyway, I just wanted to let you know, I feel your pain and can definitely empathize. Hang in there, it doesn’t seem like it now, but it does get better! Hopefully, it already has!

]]> By: TRACYO http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/2009/09/23/how-my-life-got-all-shitty/comment-page-1/#comment-3199 TRACYO Fri, 09 Oct 2009 02:55:06 +0000 http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/?p=2984#comment-3199 I have been suffering with PPD for 22 months now and I can completely relate with the dark feelings and the confusion. I received help the same time I had the first SCARY thought. I feel everyday that I am getting better so I have hope that this illness will eventually fade away. It is a long journey and 3 doctors later, I have figured out that you can not put a time frame on this... I wish you the best of luck and remember you are definitely not alone! I have been suffering with PPD for 22 months now and I can completely relate with the dark feelings and the confusion. I received help the same time I had the first SCARY thought. I feel everyday that I am getting better so I have hope that this illness will eventually fade away. It is a long journey and 3 doctors later, I have figured out that you can not put a time frame on this… I wish you the best of luck and remember you are definitely not alone!

]]> By: Organicmama http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/2009/09/23/how-my-life-got-all-shitty/comment-page-1/#comment-3190 Organicmama Mon, 05 Oct 2009 00:29:45 +0000 http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/?p=2984#comment-3190 Jessica, Still thinking of and praying for you. Hang in there and know there is a community of women who both understand what you're going through and love you through it!! Jessica,
Still thinking of and praying for you.
Hang in there and know there is a community of women who both understand what you’re going through and love you through it!!

]]> By: MoDLin http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/2009/09/23/how-my-life-got-all-shitty/comment-page-1/#comment-3181 MoDLin Fri, 02 Oct 2009 19:25:56 +0000 http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/?p=2984#comment-3181 PPD is serious and you are amazing for calling it by name and seeking help. Sounds like you have built a good network which is excellent. You are an inspiration to so many of us who feel embarrassed or too ashamed to reach out. Thank you so much for writing about this in such an honest and open way! PPD is serious and you are amazing for calling it by name and seeking help. Sounds like you have built a good network which is excellent. You are an inspiration to so many of us who feel embarrassed or too ashamed to reach out. Thank you so much for writing about this in such an honest and open way!

]]> By: wendy http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/2009/09/23/how-my-life-got-all-shitty/comment-page-1/#comment-3180 wendy Fri, 02 Oct 2009 02:44:25 +0000 http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/?p=2984#comment-3180 Hi- I just came across your post which was linked to mama-om. I suffered from ppd too after my son was born. I waited until he was 16 months to go on zoloft. What a mistake! I should have done it way earlier--it was a godsend. What I really want to point out though, is that zoloft is considered safe to take while breastfeeding. Studies show that almost no zoloft passes into breastmilk and that it is the safest antidepressant to take during nursing. Check out kellymom.com for more info on this. Blessings to you and your family. You will feel better soon! Hi-
I just came across your post which was linked to mama-om. I suffered from ppd too after my son was born. I waited until he was 16 months to go on zoloft. What a mistake! I should have done it way earlier–it was a godsend. What I really want to point out though, is that zoloft is considered safe to take while breastfeeding. Studies show that almost no zoloft passes into breastmilk and that it is the safest antidepressant to take during nursing. Check out kellymom.com for more info on this. Blessings to you and your family. You will feel better soon!

]]> By: carol http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/2009/09/23/how-my-life-got-all-shitty/comment-page-1/#comment-3178 carol Wed, 30 Sep 2009 12:14:56 +0000 http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/?p=2984#comment-3178 you truly never cease to amaze me. you are so brave and thoughtful to share your story with others. talking and getting it out there is a huge help for both you and others who may not have been as brave to ask for help. life is hard, no doubt. you will get through this with prayer, love, patience, family, friends and rest. my heart broke to seee you so hurt and today when i heard your smile over the phone i knew my boo was on her way back. you are a truly remarkable women and mother and i love you with all my being. i was truly blessed the day god decided i could be your mama. i am only sorry i live so far away from you, and as soon as i am better i will be down for a girl day. love you mama you truly never cease to amaze me. you are so brave and thoughtful to share your story with others. talking and getting it out there is a huge help for both you and others who may not have been as brave to ask for help. life is hard, no doubt. you will get through this with prayer, love, patience, family, friends and rest. my heart broke to seee you so hurt and today when i heard your smile over the phone i knew my boo was on her way back. you are a truly remarkable women and mother and i love you with all my being. i was truly blessed the day god decided i could be your mama. i am only sorry i live so far away from you, and as soon as i am better i will be down for a girl day. love you mama

]]> By: Shelley http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/2009/09/23/how-my-life-got-all-shitty/comment-page-1/#comment-3175 Shelley Tue, 29 Sep 2009 19:20:22 +0000 http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/?p=2984#comment-3175 Thank you so much for your honesty, and your ability to recognize that you need help, accept it, and move on with support from your family. So many, many people just push it under the rug and lives for years in unhappiness, which in turn brings down the whole family. I am proud of you for opening up and doing what is best! I will keep you in my prayers and check back soon:) Shelley Thank you so much for your honesty, and your ability to recognize that you need help, accept it, and move on with support from your family. So many, many people just push it under the rug and lives for years in unhappiness, which in turn brings down the whole family. I am proud of you for opening up and doing what is best!

I will keep you in my prayers and check back soon:)
Shelley

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/2009/09/23/how-my-life-got-all-shitty/comment-page-1/#comment-3173 Jennifer Tue, 29 Sep 2009 17:18:35 +0000 http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/?p=2984#comment-3173 Jess, I'm so sorry you have to through this. I can relate to what you're going through. Just know that you are never stuck and that there is hope and people who love you that will help you get through this. I will keep you in my prayers. Love and hugs, Jennifer Jess, I’m so sorry you have to through this. I can relate to what you’re going through. Just know that you are never stuck and that there is hope and people who love you that will help you get through this. I will keep you in my prayers.
Love and hugs,
Jennifer

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