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By: Green Mamma » Blog Archive » Days of You and Me: Day 19, Bumbling

Green Mamma » Blog Archive » Days of You and Me: Day 19, Bumbling — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 10:07:42 +0000

[...] with my current thinking on the art of doing nothing, I came across an article called “10 Ways to Enjoy Doing Nothing” by British author Tom [...]

By: sunnymama

sunnymama — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 22:26:44 +0000

Wonderful post! It’s so important to let our children ‘do nothing’ too :)

By: Green Mamma

Green Mamma — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 19:46:12 +0000

MamaTea, gosh, I loved that post you wrote. I hoep the tone of this one wasn’t too much like the one you wrote . . . I suppose I am, on some levels, coping with guilt too, but more than anything (and I’d hoped to be encouraging in my comments at that post), this post was me working out my own feelings about being a stay-at-home parent and how I’ve arrived at this place where I feel good about it . . . it’s what’s right for me, for my family, and well, I am caring less and less about what “people” (as you named them) think about how I am living my life. This is a good place to be in, and it seems like you and your husband are there too.

But back to the second part of your comment “It is such a gift, and I shouldn’t question that.” I dunno. I mull things over. I tear issues apart in my head and give myself hell over things, and deep down, I know analysis and rumination are good. But they’re pretty terrible for our souls, I think, when we start beating ourselves up about ourselves because of “others.” I do revere others and love them, though I am trying to stay centered, in a positive way, on me, and less focused on finding “me,” in others.

I hope all this makes some sense . . .

By: MamaTea

MamaTea — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 13:16:46 +0000

So here I was reading this post, thinking, “Wow. This reminds me of when I posted a bit ago about how I was feeling so guilty…” and there was a link to that very post on the bottom of your post. Small world, eh?

Thanks for writing this. I am once again reminded of how lucky I am to have what I have and be where I am. And to have a husband who says “be with the kids” – it is such a gift, and I shouldn’t question that. I should just let it be, as it is.

We so often do much more than we have to. It’s a learning process to go the other way…

By: Green Mamma

Green Mamma — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 18:25:12 +0000

Robin, thank you for that. You’re right. I do need to let go. I have another week until I’m safely in the 37 week term, and I think then, while I’m having these strong contractions that I’ve been having, I’ll tell little guy, “It’s okay. You can come now.” It really feels like he understands me . . . intuitively speaking, because when I “speak” with him, I never articulate words aloud.

By: robin (woowoo mama)

robin (woowoo mama) — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 12:27:34 +0000

nice post mama. i really enjoyed reading it and the one you linked to. in some ways these remind me of what i have been thinking on a lot – shifting my focus from what i can accomplish to being engaged in the process (with regards to “parenting” and also housework etc). unfortunately, like abbie i have a huge paper due on friday that i have not begun yet! (procrastinators unite?) so, i will have to refocus on doing nothing (or on being what i am doing) some other day.

oh, and this just jumped into my mind. as i approached the end of my second pregnancy i kept journeying on the idea of what i needed in order to be ready for my birth (and to let it begin) and the answer was always “let go.”

let go and do nothing seem related.

ok sorry to go on and on.

By: Green Mamma

Green Mamma — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 11:54:36 +0000

swimming sounds like fun. honestly, at this point in my pregnant, being in a big cold pool is one of my favorite places to be. wow, I wonder whether I could meditate there, :-)

Courtney, I’m glad to hear you and Mieky are having fun. I’ve been taking Annabelle for walks too: they serve a double purpose of getting us outside and getting little guy into position for birth, :-) Fun stuff, :-)

By: Courtney

Courtney — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 03:17:13 +0000

Jessica, thanks as always for the inspiration. I finally jumped on the (your) bandwagon today and let Michael pick a card with an activity. We had the most fun today on the nature walk he chose.

Hang in there!

By: abbie

abbie — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 01:21:22 +0000

I’m pretty good at doing nothing. Problem is, I’m best at doing nothing when there’s something that NEEDS to be done. Case in point: instead of writing the two huge lab reports that are due for my class at the end of this week, I spent Sunday afternoon swimming around my parents’ pool with my brothers. It was a blast, but I wish I had spent some time on those papers… I didn’t work on them again today. I’m hoping that tomorrow will be more productive. My mind has just been elsewhere lately.