Archive for February, 2008


Gratitude Sunday

Monday, February 25th, 2008

This has been a difficult week.  My family received horrible news that my sister’s husband was killed in Iraq.  He was in the fourth month of his first tour.  We are all in shock.  In the coming week I will spend time with my sister and nephew, as well as the five hundred or so expected to attend his funeral.

When I think about my brother-in-law, I see his smile,  his calmness, his sense of humor, and his intellect.  I have told friends that he is perhaps one of the sweetest guys I have had the pleasure of knowing.  And I cannot imagine how my sister or his parents are feeling right now.  When I saw them this weekend, everyone is devastated though mostly in shock.

And when all is wrong in the world, I think that these are the times when gratitude is needed most.  So I intend to write about what I feel grateful for in my life from this past week:

1.  My problems.  Large and small, my problems give my life focus and meaning.  I learn so much about life and love from my problems, and perhaps I will be better at helping others with difficult times and experiences because of the depth of my own.

2. My family.  These nights since I learned about the death of my brother-in-law have been spent lying in bed close to my husband and daughter and at certain moments clutching them.  My entire being feels just how precious our lives together truly are.

3. Bath time.  At the end of a long day, my husband or I give our daughter a bath.  On the nights that it is my turn to bathe her, I get to reconnect with her and slow down.  She is always smiling and splashing, talking to her toys, to me, or to the tub faucet.   These moments are magical for me.  And on the nights when my husband bathes her, I have the opportunity to write, read, and relax, and blog, as I am doing now.

4. E-mail. I am not much for words right now, verbally anyway.  The ability to contact friends and family through text has been both therapeutic and accommodating: I can correspond and give news, details, etc., and no one can hear the emotion in my voice.

5.  Vegan goodies, especially chocolate ones.  I mentioned Lara bars earlier this week, and oh boy, do I love them!  I packed several for my trip to visit my sister, and I will need to stock up again.  I could totally go for a chocolate coffee Jocalot bar right now.

So I am sad to share terrible news here on my blog but in discussing what I am grateful for this week I cannot help but reflect on what I wish would just be undone, as if this were a bad dream from which my family and I could just wake up from.  But this is life, and life is often hard.

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Prince Fielder is a vegetarian . . . I wonder if he read Skinny Bitch

Saturday, February 23rd, 2008

 

And so the vegetarian family expands.  Prince Fielder, first baseman for the Milwaukee Brewers, announced to his team this week that he is no longer a meat and fish eater and is now a vegetarian.

According to this story on Yahoo Sports, Fielder’s wife Chanel gave him a book describing the treatment and murder of animals for food.

He is quoted as saying, “”After reading that, (meat) just didn’t sound good to me anymore. It grossed me out a little bit. It’s not a diet thing or anything like that. I don’t miss it at all.”

Coincidentally, my meat loving sister has recently proclaimed herself a vegetarian after reading a book that I recommended: Skinny Bitch by  Rory Freedman and Kim Barnounin.  My sister, like Fielder, said that once she learned about the sanitation and slaughtering practices of meat suppliers, she could not longer lift a fork of chicken or beef to her mouth.  I pretty much felt the same way after I read the book, although I became a vegetarian about six years ago.   Animal mistreatment is a foul reality in our food industry and is largely ignored by so many in our society.  We consumers are so separated from the processes involved in dairy farming and the killing of animals.  The optimist in me doubts that people are simply turning their heads from the truth though.

I wonder whether Fielder’s wife Chanel gave him this same book.  While the language of Skinny Bitch is in-your-face as though the narrator were a girlfriend with a foul mouth, the book is certainly a worthwhile read for at least raising questions (if not eyebrows) about what goes on behind the scenes of the bright and shiny grocery store where consumers innocently purchase food.

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Quiz: How Green is Your Laundry

Wednesday, February 20th, 2008

Oof!  I just took the “How Green is Your Laundry” quiz at the Sierra Club web-site.  Yowsers!  I scored a 76, which means I’ve got some cleaning to do, and it ain’t my laundry, it’s my act.  Anyway, click here to check out the quiz.  How green is your laundry?

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Hand Me Downs

Tuesday, February 19th, 2008

Clothing my kid is expensive.   We realized the costliness of threads for our dear one when she hit four months and had outgrown many outfits gifted to us at my baby shower.   Sure, Annabelle’s nanna and grandma mail packages full of adorable baby attire, but baby requires lots of clothing because of the nature of her day (blowing out diapers, spitting up on oneself multiple times, and once food is introduced–getting covered in whatever is featured for the day’s menu).  Anyhoo . . .

I discovered Freecycle around the time that we needed to bulk up Annabelle’s wardrobe.  One freecycler who lived down the street from me (I walked to her house) handed over three boxes full of babywear.   I thanked her and she made me promise to pass on the clothes to another free cycler or parent of a baby.   She shared a story with me about a woman from her church who grew up in Africa and whose family handed down clothing until a shirt or pair of pants had really lived its life.

Well now that my husband and I are officially members of the parents club, we know a lot of other parents with little ones.  Last night I plowed through Annabelle’s dresser and closet and pulled out jackets, sweaters, tops, pants, and p.j.’s that she’d outgrown.  I e-mailed two other moms with baby girls and within a few minutes, those clothes were on their way to another little one.

Hand me downs don’t just help us parents save the green stuff, but hand me downs are another way to be green and help save mama earth.  Cutting down on consumerism is key to conserving the environment.  Conserve, conserve, conserve!

Here is a photo from last year.  Annabelle is wearing all freecycled clothing while playing on her tum-tum.

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Gratitude Sunday

Monday, February 18th, 2008

Following the lead from other crafty bloggers out there like artsy-crafty babe and Creative Kismet, I am adding a new feature to my blog: a gratitude entry once a week. Okay, so this week I am grateful for:

1. Weekly dates with my husband. Even though we only get to spend an hour or two alone together, time alone is time alone.

2. Weekly dates with my friends. Many of my friends are moms. Getting together is therapeutic and helps me find meaning and happiness in my everyday (and most important) work: raising my child(ren).

3. Stories that linger. I am a book fanatic and a movie feen. On a recent date with my husband we saw Juno with Ellen Page and Jennifer Garner. I cried my eyes out. The next day I could not stop thinking about the characters’ and the way their lives overlapped and interconnected. For the first time (I feel awful admitting to this), I considered the experiences of women who are unable to conceive children. I also empathized with women who need to give up their children for adoption. Five stars all around.

4. Z Pizza. I used to deny myself the great pleasure that pizza can be (too many bad experiences with dripping greasy pizza). No more! Z Pizza just opened near our friends’ house, and I love their whole wheat Berkeley soy cheese and California pies. Yummy.

5. Making new friends with other crunchy mommies, both here on my blog and in my local community. Friends like Danielle and Melody are like strokes of yellow and red on an otherwise plain canvas. They inspire me to keep writing and creating. Thank you ladies!

6. Finding my camera’s user manual. I searched high and low for my manual, as advised by many a blogging photographer. While Annabelle naps, bathes, and parallel plays beside me, I am learning the ins and outs of a camera that I have owned for almost six months. I am so excited because I just figured out how to improve lighting for indoor shots.

7. Visits with my mom and her boyfriend Joe. Over four years ago we lost my dad to cancer and a bad heart. Getting to see my mom laugh and have a chance at love again is a wonderful feeling. I am so happy for her. Plus, Annabelle’s Nanna is a top notch babysitter.

8. Exercise. I stay mentally balanced and energized when I get my butt moving.

Thank you to the Universe, to God, or the great unknown. I have loving people in my life, a roof over my head, and truly magical moments to treasure. Oh yes, and thank you for gratitude. It helps me keep perspective.

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Lara Bar Yum Time

Saturday, February 16th, 2008

One of my favorite parts of Lara bars is that this treat tastes good and there ain’t no nothin’ fake in it.  I run.  I run a lot.  And since I am always on the go and as my husband describes my mood when I am hungry (”bad tendency for low blood sugar” = not a very nice wife), I need to pack something delicious and nutritious.  For a while I was loyal to Clif bars which are loaded with carbs and protein, but when I checked out the ingredients I learned that Clif bar contains soy lecithin and other nasty preservatives.

Lara bar is awesome because it is chewy and delectable and it is just raw food.  Most bars list fig as one of the ingredients and I have to say that there is a bit of a fig chewiness and after taste.

My favorite flavors include cinnamon roll, gingersnap, and the new jocalot chocolate, chocolate coffee, and chocolate mint.

One word to describe Lara bars: yum!

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Glass Jar Fun

Thursday, February 14th, 2008

Glass jars, oh, glass jars! Oh how much fun can you have with glass jars? Lots, actually. We recycled a bunch of our glass jars to become container games for Annabelle. I know it sounds sort of boring but Annabelle gets a kick out of matching lids to different glass jar containers, and of course, we have to help her too.

Anyway, it’s good old fashioned glass jar fun!

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Green Mama is a fan of photography

Wednesday, February 13th, 2008

A few months ago my kodak digital camera went kaput.  So we waited a bit and I upgraded to the basic easy share Z1275 12 megapixel kodak camera.  Admittedly my photos on the new camera are improved but I am always more pleased with how photos that my friend Melody takes (of course, she studied at the Corcoran College of Art and Design.    And now, I am becoming a fan of photographers.  Click here to see more great photos on Hatnim Lee’s photoblog.

So far my own abilities to make a picture look good within a given square are limited to what I think looks good by aiming and shooting.  And I have read the on-line photographing guide at Kodak, and while that’s helped, I have so much to learn.   As my husband pointed out last night while I rolled around our living room taking pictures of our daughter while she played with glass jars, at least digital film isn’t wasting any materials on bad shots.  Digital is green in my book.

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Excessive Crying Harmful to Babies

Monday, February 11th, 2008

I am copying and pasting two articles from the Attachment Parenting list-serve I belong to.  The first article is about the harmful effects of crying (it out) on babies’ brain and development.  The second piece is about the benefits of co-sleeping for babies.  Read on!

Science Says: Excessive Crying Could Be Harmful to Babies
Science tells us that when babies cry alone and unattended, they experience
panic and anxiety. Their bodies and brains are flooded with adrenaline and
cortisol stress hormones. Science has also found that when developing brain
tissue is exposed to these hormones for prolonged periods these nerves won’t
form connections to other nerves and will degenerate. Is it therefore
possible that infants who endure many nights or weeks of crying-it-out alone
are actually suffering harmful neurologic effects that may have permanent
implications on the development of sections of their brain? Here is how
science answers this alarming question:
Chemical and hormonal imbalances in the brain
Research has shown that infants who are routinely separated from parents in
a stressful way have abnormally high levels of the stress hormone cortisol,
as well as lower growth hormone levels. These imbalances inhibit the
development of nerve tissue in the brain, suppress growth, and depress the
immune system. 5, 9, 11, 16
Researchers at Yale University and Harvard Medical School found that intense
stress early in life can alter the brain’s neurotransmitter systems and
cause structural and functional changes in regions of the brain similar to
those seen in adults with depression. 17
One study showed infants who experienced persistent crying episodes were 10
times more likely to have ADHD as a child, along with poor school
performance and antisocial behavior. The researchers concluded these
findings may be due to the lack of responsive attitude of the parents toward
their babies. 14.
Dr. Bruce Perry’s research at Baylor University may explain this finding. He
found when chronic stress over-stimulates an infant’s brain stem (the part
of the brain that controls adrenaline release), and the portions of the
brain that thrive on physical and emotional input are neglected (such as
when a baby is repeatedly left to cry alone), the child will grow up with an
over-active adrenaline system. Such a child will display increased
aggression, impulsivity, and violence later in life because the brainstem
floods the body with adrenaline and other stress hormones at inappropriate
and frequent times. 6
Dr. Allan Schore of the UCLA School of Medicine has demonstrated that the
stress hormone cortisol (which floods the brain during intense crying and
other stressful events) actually destroys nerve connections in critical
portions of an infant’s developing brain. In addition, when the portions of
the brain responsible for attachment and emotional control are not
stimulated during infancy (as may occur when a baby is repeatedly neglected)
these sections of the brain will not develop. The result - a violent,
impulsive, emotionally unattached child. He concludes that the sensitivity
and responsiveness of a parent stimulates and shapes the nerve connections
in key sections of the brain responsible for attachment and emotional
well-being. 7, 8
Decreased intellectual, emotional, and social development
Infant developmental specialist Dr. Michael Lewis presented research
findings at an American Academy of Pediatrics meeting, concluding that “the
single most important influence of a child’s intellectual development is the
responsiveness of the mother to the cues of her baby.”
Researchers have found babies whose cries are usually ignored will not
develop healthy intellectual and social skills. 19
Dr. Rao and colleagues at the National Institutes of Health showed that
infants with prolonged crying (but not due to colic) in the first 3 months
of life had an average IQ 9 points lower at 5 years of age. They also showed
poor fine motor development. (2)
Researchers at Pennsylvania State and Arizona State Universities found that
infants with excessive crying during the early months showed more difficulty
controlling their emotions and became even fussier when parents tried to
consol them at 10 months. 15
Other research has shown that these babies have a more annoying quality to
their cry, are more clingy during the day, and take longer to become
independent as children 1.
Harmful physiologic changes
Animal and human research has shown when separated from parents, infants and
children show unstable temperatures, heart arrhythmias, and decreased REM
sleep (the stage of sleep that promotes brain development). 10 12, 13
Dr. Brazy at Duke University and Ludington-Hoe and colleagues at Case
Western University showed in 2 separate studies how prolonged crying in
infants causes increased blood pressure in the brain, elevates stress
hormones, obstructs blood from draining out of the brain, and decreases
oxygenation to the brain. They concluded that caregivers should answer cries
swiftly, consistently, and comprehensively. (3) and (4)
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Scientific Benefits of Co-sleeping
Popular media has tried to discourage parents from sharing sleep with their
babies, calling this worldwide practice unsafe. Medical science, however,
doesn’t back this conclusion. In fact, research shows that co-sleeping is
actually safer than sleeping alone. Here is what science says about sleeping
with your baby:
Sleep more peacefully
Research shows that co-sleeping infants virtually never startle during sleep
and rarely cry during the night, compared to solo sleepers who startle
repeatedly throughout the night and spend 4 times the number of minutes
crying 1. Startling and crying releases adrenaline, which increases heart
rate and blood pressure, interferes with restful sleep and leads to long
term sleep anxiety.
Stable physiology
Studies show that infants who sleep near to parents have more stable
temperatures 2, regular heart rhythms, and fewer long pauses in breathing
compared to babies who sleep alone 3. This means baby sleeps physiologically
safer.
Decreases risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome
Worldwide research shows that the SIDS rate is lowest (and even unheard of)
in countries where co-sleeping is the norm, rather than the exception 4, 5,
6, 7, 8, 9. Babies who sleep either in or next to their parents’ bed have a
fourfold decrease in the chance of SIDS 10. Co-sleeping babies actually
spend more time sleeping on their back or side 1 which decreases the risk of
SIDS. Further research shows that the carbon dioxide exhaled by a parent
actually works to stimulate baby’s breathing 11.
Long term emotional health
Co-sleeping babies grow up with a higher self-esteem, less anxiety, become
independent sooner, are better behaved in school 12, and are more
comfortable with affection 13. They also have less psychiatric problems 14.
Safer than crib sleeping
The Consumer Product Safety Commission published data that described infant
fatalities in adult beds. These same data, however, showed more than 3 times
as many crib related infant fatalities compared to adult bed accidents 15.
Another recent large study concluded that bed sharing did NOT increase the
risk of SIDS, unless the mom was a smoker or abused alcohol 16.
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Tie Dye Toddler Top

Monday, February 11th, 2008

As promised here is a photo of some of experimentation with tie dying.  For starters, I decided to make something new from something old (a top that my dd doesn’t usually wear).  To create this long sleeve turquoise tie dyed velour toddler top, I used a washed but dry pre-sewn shirt and a dry brush to apply the dye.   I am having a blast playing with the dye and creating the different swirls and shapes that tie dying fabric allows for.  I am even thinking about making tie dyed onesies from organic cotton to sell via pay-pal.  Let me know what you think!

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